Imagine living a life free of all expectations. You have completely surrendered to existence. Whatever experience you are being presented with has your complete attention. Your mind is a tool that is used only when required.
There are no decisions to be taken. Why do you have to decide anything? Whatever you decide is decided based on your current situation, current state of mind and experience. Your decision is always about the future and is always taken in the present.
For example, you decide not to eat sugar again. This decision might have been taken by you by considering your health and shows your seriousness. It might even seem very easy because you are currently deeply motivated about your health. You think that no matter what happens, I will not eat sugar. Now, this decision is carried with you. You have not tried to understand your relationship with food and sugar. You have taken an intellectual decision of using will power to not eat sugar again. You are also able to sustain the decision for a few days.
The issue happens when you start losing your will power. It takes more and more effort to not eat sugar. You start questioning the decision. The state of mind is completely different. The ‘I’ that took the decision is completely different than the ‘I’ that’s currently contemplating the decision’s validity. You can continue forcing your own decision on yourself but that is a form of aggression and violence. The case against the decision becomes stronger and stronger in your head until one day you give in and go against the decision. Then comes guilt, anger and the other wonderful emotions. You lose a lot of confidence in yourself. You feel like a loser.
You are deciding every moment. Even if you have taken a decision, you have to decide to follow it every moment. What’s the need to decide? You would rather be present and respond to the moment with real time intelligence. Setting an intention is enough. If you could just set an intention of eating healthier, its enough. You don’t have to do anything else. Just drop all expectations of how to do it and allow your intelligence to guide you.